I I Sunday, April 15, 1990 5B Abused wife waits for change DEAR ANN LANDERS: 1 just read I the letter from Victimized in Brooklyn, and my own life was laid right out there in front of mc, hecause too, am a battered wife. My husband is an alcoholic who suffers from depression and paranoia. For nearly four years, I listened to doctors tell me that medication and therapy would help. When "Jack" beat me up for the umpteenth time, 1 had him arrested. Hc was given 30 days but was released after four days on 'good behavior." I nearly fainted when I heard Jack's voice on the phone, telling me that he was out of jail.
The law says 1 have to let him speak to his son, but it docsn't say that I have to take any morc garbage. Again 1 heard him say, "Honey, I've changed." 1 wanted to believe him, but I'd heard that line so many times I didn't weaken. 1 just said, "Fine. You say you've changed? Prove it. Get a job and support yourself.
Join Alcoholics Anonymous. Go through the Options Program." (Options is a selfhelp group for men who beat their wives and girlfriends.) Needless to say, he hasn't done any of the above, but I am determined to keep him out of this house until he proves that he is willing to clean up his act. This is the message I have for your readers. Hang tough. Don't get sweet-talked into anything.
Make the guy prove he is serious. Don't accept his word for anything. It's casy to say, "I've changed." The hard part is actually taking the necessary steps to do it. I know now that 1 was an "enabler." I made it easy for him to continuc to drink and beat me up, because there was never any penalty for what he did. But all that is over.
Al-Anon taught me a better way to live. NJ. Woman DEAR N.J.: Thanks for a great letter. DEAR ANN LANDERS: I am 12 years old, and this is the first problem I have had that is bad enough to write about. My Aunt Lottie is a very nice lady.
She always has a smile for everybody, and she has a big house with a maid to clean up after her. Aunt Lottie comes to our house BRIDGE James Jacoby Wily club Note discard. that the ace and a playing VS. wily heart docs not work. East will win the second heart and play two more The -spade contract could be high hearts.
Although the last heart played i in a number of ways. After can be ruffed in dummy, declarer the queen of diamonds was led, de- will still be left with a club loser. But clarer covered with dummy's king. South cannily led away from East took the ace and retumed a dia- dummy's heart acc. East could win mond.
South ruffed with the jack, the jack, but what then? If East plays played a spade to dummy, ruffed another high heart, declarer wins the another diamond, and then played ace and continues the suit, setting up another trump to dummy. Of course, his heart 10 for the needed club disdeclarer might just as well have kept card. So it looked as though South the tead in his hand when he drew the had found the winning line until last trump. That way, he could play a East casually played a low heart. Not low club up to dummy's queen.
If believing that East could possibly West held the king, a diamond could hold K-Q-J-4, and catering to the later be discarded from the North possibility that West might hold K-J hand, assuming that South retained doubleton of hearts as well as the an entry in the trump suit. But de- king of clubs, declarer put in the clarer had decided to work on hearts, eight of hearts. West was a little surhopeful of setting up the suit for a prised 10 win the trick with his nine- Ann Landers once in a while. We go to her house every Sunday for supper and all the big holidays. I like going to her house, because it is very big, and I can slide on the polished floors in the halls.
The problem is that Aunt Lottic is a big hugger and kisser. I don't mind this, but she has a lot of colds or the flu. It seems like the day after she hugs and kisses me 1 get a cold. My mom has asked her not to kiss me and my brother when she has a cold, and she always says, "It's all right. I am taking Do antibiotics stop people from spreading germs? I need to know and hope you will help me.
Aunt Lottic's Ncphew in Brooklyn DEAR NEPHEW: Antibiotics do not work against viruses. They are effective only against bacteria. They don't work immediately. You must give antibiotics a few days to take effect. My advice is to your mother.
She should ask Aunt Lottie not to hug and kiss you and your brother unless she is 100 percent well. This is no more than common sense. GEM OF THE DAY (From Richard C. Miller, Hamden, Often it is cheaper to buy something than to accept it as a gift. (R) COPYRIGHT 1990 CREATORS SYNDICATE, INC.
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which sees you through your most difficult as well as your most triumphant periods SUNDAY, APRIL 15 ARIES (March 21-April 19) You may get a later start than anticipated today. but family members will forgive you for anv unexpected delays. TAURU'S (April 20-May 20) Your day may begin with quite a journey by plane. train or automobile. Be sure to keep yourself a nused on the way.
GEMINI (May 21-June 20) This is a good day to devote to thought and contemplation. Don't limit the possibilities' CANCER (June 21-July 22) You mustn't be afraid of what family members will say about new developments in your life. Explanations will CROSSWORD PUZZLE ACROSS sloth 42 Miss 1 Flat hat 43 Children 4 Ginger 45 Large trucks cookie (sl.) 8 Impediment 47 More 12 One withered kind 50 Stuck-up 13 Reliable person 14 Bell sound 51 Acct. 15 Rook's cry 52 Freshwater 16 Construction porpoise beam 55 River nymph 17 Actress 58 Tiniest bit Sommer 60 Loosen 18 Wild buffalo 62 Fabulous bird 20 Edge 63 Poems 22 Author 64 Golf hazard Rand 65 Two 23 Remain 66 Loch Transmits monster 25 27 Priest's 67 Paving stone vestment 68 Believer in an 29 Herb ism 31 Gold (Sp.) 32 Cozy DOWN 34 Full of shade trees Actress 38 Clan Imogene 40 Two-toed 2 At a distance suffice. LEO (July 23-Aug.
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You benefit from a heart-to-heart talk late in the day. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21) Spiritual issues can be addressed today with confidence even if you are not as sure of yourself as you'd like. CAPRICORN (Dec.
22-Jan. 19) Your entire day may wind up being Answer to Previous Puzzle UHUH STEIN YUUU TADPOLE BUN ARP USER URA SET A FOLDO TUGGED HOU UNTO UNA DENY BUY ORA UUR ERROR SON DANGLED 3 Loan office 4 Fast aircraft (abbr.) 9 5 Knotty 6 Resin- 10 producing 11 tree 7 Persian elf 19 8 Sault 21 24 26 27 35 36 37 39 48 56 50 14 (c) 1990 by NEA, Inc 61 PEANUTS by Charles M. Schulz A FRIENDSHIP LIKE OURS IS WORTH ALL THE MONEY IN THE WORLD ON THE OTHER HAND IF WE Syndicate MONEY, HAD A WE LITTLE COULD a BUY SOME MORE 8 4-14 GARFIELD by Jim Davis GARFIELD, THIS DIET IS IT ONLY LACKS FOOD ONE OF THE HEALTHIEST ONE THING WE'VE EVER BEEN ON CONCUR United CATHY by Cathy Gulsewite LAST YEAR MY TAX DOLLARS BEFORE I PAY ONE MORE THIS YEAR ALL YOUR TAX WAAH! NEXT YEAR, HELPED FINANCE THE IRS'S DIME, PLEASE TELL ME I'm MONEY 15 BEING USED TO ADO YOU'LL BE BUYING IDIOTIC $1.9 MILLION STUDY NOT JUST FLINGING MY PRE- UP HOW MUCH OTHER PEOPLE KLEENEX FOR ON HOW LONG IT TAKES TO CIOU5 SAVINGS INTO ANOTHER ARE CHEATING ON THEIR TAXES. ALL THE IRS FILL OUT A TAX FORM. STUPID VAT THIS YEAR BECAUSE OF YOU, WE KNOW) OFFICES IN OTHER PEOPLE NAVE FIGURED THE COUNTRY.
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4 FRANK AND ERNEST by Bob Thaves IRS ALL YOUR BUCKS STOP HERE 0664 44 centered around avoidance but by day's end you'll be tired of running and dodging AQUARIU'S (Jan. 20-Feb. 18) Success today depends upon strict self-discipline Don't let down and don't let yourself succumb to peerpressure' PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20) Your self-image is unassailable today You should be feeling in the pink and read for anvthing MONDAY, APRIL 16 ARIES (March 21-April 19) Today will usher in a busy week in which the pace of both work and play cluding romance will speed up considerably. TAURU'S (April 20-May 20) You've got to be willing to watch out for those around you today Your safe.
ty depends on the well-being of others GEMINI (May 21-June 20) Today is likely to present you with a number of situations which have the potential of becoming emotional hotbeds. CANCER (June 21-July 22) Take what you need today. but no more and no less. Fair is fair and unfair can be far too risky in the long run. LEO (July 23-Aug.
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more bot-dogging' SAGITTARIU'S (Nov. 22-Dec. 21) Unexpected pleasures are in store for you once you've gotten your major workload out of the way. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan.
19) Those things which you think may have passed into memory forever are not quite over vet' AQUARIU'S (Jan. 20-Feb. 18) You will most likely be re-introduced to a side of yourself which you have been missing for some time PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20) You will be more aware of what you have been doing after the fact than while you are in the thick of things Cup raghs U'nited eature Syndic all THE WORLD DATE BOOK April 15, 1990 Today IS Easter Sunday 11 15 the 105th day of 1990 and the 27th day of spring. TODAY'S HISTORY: On this day in 1912, the Titanic.
the largest passen liner the world, sank on its maidger en voyage. killing more than 1,500 CALVIN AND HOBBES by Bill Watterson MOM, CAN DO WHAT: SEE, I'LL PUT ON MY WHAT DO YOU I SURE WE GO OUT ROLLER SKATES AND TIE SAY? CAN WISH YOU TO THE A ROPE FROM THE CAR WE GO? COULD HIGHWAY? BUMPER TO MY WAIST. THEN DRIVE. WHEN I GIVE YOU THE HIGH FIVE, YOU PATCH OUT WHILE I RIDE BEHIND AT 55 MPH: THE BORN LOSER by Art Sansom A WORD OF ADVICE, BEFORE YOU STARTED HERE, THE OLD MAN RULED IT MANDATORY TO WEAR. BETTER? TIES IN THE OFFICE, BUT, UH YOU KNOW, AT THE NECK.
8 NEA 1990 EEK MEEK by Howle Schneider IT SHOULD BE SELF EVIDENT IT'S NOT FAIR. WE BOTH HAVE THAT NO RELATIOUSHIP IT'S NOT RIGHT, TO BE SLAVES CAN LONG ENDURE HALF IT'S NOT SLAVE AND HALF: FREE. c. Marie Baseballer Ryan Resin Narrow valleys From Food additive (abbr.) Commercials Wide shoe size Dawn Opposite of post Stare Khan Cloistered one Football coach Vince 1051, Roman Indeed Mao tung Naval abbr. Boundary (pref.) Long time Grafting twig Poem part Fixed prices Anwar Daffy Regarding (2 wds.) Adjective ending -free Beast of burden Make a choice ALLEY 00P by Dave Graue THIS GUY EFTA COME ON! D'YOU SUPPOSE NAW! BRING I'M RIGHT WHICH IS GOOD, THAT SOMEBODY HUGO WOULD 'EM ALONG, BEHIND WAY? THIS ALLEY! I.
SCREAM NEEDS MISS A FEW OF BUT HURRY! You! WAY! AGAIN! HELP! THESE? WINTHROP by Dick Cavalli THE LOCH NESS I WAS FILLING THE TUB WOULD YOU BELIEVE I I SAW MONSTER LAST NIGHT. TO TAKE MY BATH HAD AN EYEWITNESS? no la.
